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Friday, December 16, 2005

Why the homophobic Religious Right is Wrong

Whenever I hear that inane argument about gay marriage somehow, magically devaluing straight marriage, it always gives me pause. I just don't understand it. Heck, I don't understand why anyone has a problem with gays at all. As a straight woman, why don't I react in outraged horror when I hear about the "gay agenda" or gay marriage, or when I find out a friend or colleague is gay? I just can't muster up an iota of intolerance.

The other night, while unable to fall asleep, I started thinking about the arguments that the homophobic elements of the Religious Wrong is forever putting forward about why "gay is bad." . Here are the buzz words I came up with:

AIDS
Promiscuity
Pedophilia
Sodomy
Infidelity

There are probably more, but let's start with these. While contemplating these various subjects, it occured to me that the homophobic elements of the Religious Wrong have been focusing on the wrong group. Those words don't describe homosexuals. They do, however, describe a different group. I'll explain.

AIDS

The highest incidence of AIDS, when it first arrived on the scene, was found in male homosexuals. The lowest incidence was found in female homosexuals. It's ridiculous to 'blame' a group for being the cause when half their number are the least likely to contract and carry the disease. So who is at fault? One need only look at the spread to the heterosexual community to figure it out: Men. Men are the common denominator, not homosexuals. Whether in straight or gay relationships, men were the most likely to contract and spread AIDS to their partners, male or female. Therefore, we must remove AIDS from the list of "Things Against Homosexuals" and place it clearly in the "Men Are at Fault" category.

Promiscuity

Have to say the same thing with this one. Males, whether straight or gay, are far more promiscuous, tend to have more partners, and tend to stray far easier than women. Once again, it's not a gay thing, it's a male thing.

Pedophilia

Men. The vast majority of pedophiles are males. This one is really off base when blaming homosexuals. Almost totally a guy thing, whether it's molesting little girls or little boys. There are far more little girls molested, so straight males are working much harder than their gay brethren in this category. And although there are occasional stories of women going after young boys, nearly every one of them tends to end up on the nightly news simply because it's so rare. So where are the stories of women going after young girls? Even rarer. Infinitesimal compared to males. Once again, the obvious group that must hold the lion's share of the blame for this one: Men.

Sodomy

Big favorite of the guys. Not as popular with the ladies. Definitely more gay men are interested, but once again, how pervasive do you think this is among lesbians? Afraid that eliminates "gay" as the category of choice and we have to go back to that far more accurate statistical group: Men.

Infidelity

You've probably already figured this one out. Yup, once again, it is the male of the species that is far more likely to cheat on his spouse or partner than the females. So although both sexes indulge in it, the overwhelming favorite here is, again, men.

So What Should We Do?

With men being behind all of these social ills that the homophobic elements of the Religious Wrong are so violently against, what should society do? Should we marginalize men? Should we deny them many of their civil rights, to keep them in line? Should we try to convert them into women? Should we denigrate them, revile them, preach against them in pulpits and pass a constitutional ammendment keeping them from being able to marry? Perhaps we should make sure no male can adopt or father a child, since that child will obviously end up screwed up, being under the influence of this dangerous group.

Or maybe we should not treat men as pariahs, despite their deviant behavior. Perhaps we should see them as people. Perhaps we should see the love they keep in their hearts, and the strength of their souls. Perhaps, as a group, they aren't deviants at all. Perhaps they are human beings, with emotions, thoughts, likes, dislikes, jobs, families, hobbies, laughter, sorrow, joy, and pain. Perhaps men are a natural creation, just as women are. Perhaps men can be just as loved by God as women are. Perhaps men don't deserve to be treated like some freak of nature, but rather, they should be allowed to live their lives as the decent human beings most of them are. Are there bad men? Of course. Heck, there are even some bad women. But don't judge an entire group by the actions of the few. Men are God's creatures, just as women are. Please treat them with respect. No more attempts to legislate them out of existence, curtail their rights, or turn them all into women. The latter is simply not the way they were born. Accept them and love them, regardless if you want to bed them.

-- Guanna

P.S. It's my birthday -- yay me! I'm old.

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